In Love, Pain Is A Blessing

Love is a painful, but the pain is certainly a blessing. Love is painful
because love brings growth.Love demands , transforms and is a
painful because love gives you a new birth.

Love brings you hearth into relatioship and when the hearth is in relationship -
and when the heart is in relationship there is always pain. If you avoid the pain
you will miss all pleasure of life. with love you will become human; you stand erect
on earth.with love you are vertical.

With love are problems.But with problems is growth-the greater the problem
the greater the opportunity.More and more pain, too.

That's why many people never love-it is so painful. They never become vertical
they like to be a normal ;).

Love never shatters you completely.It simply shatters you a little, a little bit.
It shatters a crust of your ego,but the center of the ego remains intact.Then
there is a deeper pain , deeper than love, and that is of prayer-it shatters you
utterly.It is death.When you have learnt how to love, and you have learnt that
that the pain that love brings is a blessing in disguise,it is beatiful , then you become
able and you take another step(note: here task is not yet completed :) ) -that step
is prayer(sachhe mann sein.....).

All lovers feel a little miserable. They would like to disappear completely,but it is not
possible in human relationship. Human relationship is a limited.But one learns from it
that there is a possibility:if it can happen so much in a human relationship,how much more
can happen in a relationship with the Divine?

Love makes you ready to take the final jump, the quantum leap. That's what I call prayer
,or you can call it meditation .You have to disappear for existence to be.
Love is a training ground , a school to learn first lessons - of the beauty , of the blessings
and benediction of disappearance; to learn that pain is blessed.

So when you are in love , or when love arises, cooperate with it, don't try resisting.
People come to compromise. The basic problem that i have been looking at is that
lovers by and by come to a compromise.
The compromise is: You don't heart me , i will not heart you. That what marriage is.Then
people become settled(life mein settle hone ko mangata hai!!!!) . They become so afraid
of pain that they say "Don't heart me and i will not heart you" but then when pain disappers,love also disappears.They exists together.
When you are in love ,love hearts . it hearts terribly.
But never resist, never create any barriers for pain . allow it and by and by you will see that
it was a wrong interpretation. It is not a really pain.It is just that something is going so deep in you that you interpret it like a pain.you dont know anything else.You are only aware of pain in your past life,in your past experience,whenever something penetrate deep , you interpret it as a
pain.

Don't use a word pain .when love and love's arraow goes deep into your heart,close your eyes and don't use words -just see what it is , and you will never see it is a pain .you will see it is a
benediction .You will be tremendously moved by it .You will feel joyous.

Don't use words.When something new happens to you, always allow a deep look into
it without any language.

Talk:Osho
Source:THE SPEAKING TREE

LOVE IS IN THE AIR

It there is anything in this universe that cannot be defined, it is love,
If you can describe love, then it is far from the truth. You give flowers,
you hug, you prostrate, you offer but still something remains unexpressed.

Once Rama asked Hanuman: “Tell me how much you love me?”
Hanuman said, “My Lord, I cannot expressed my love for you, you want
to see? I will tear open my heart and show you”.
Even your whole life you try to express how deep your love is, you
cannot express it fully. You can only find a little expression, just a glimpse of it.

There are three types of love satvik, rajsik, and tamsik. Satvik
love is that which does not expect anything in return. Rajsik
love is love combined with feverishness and desire to get something back.
Tamsik love is just to destroy things. But divine love is free from all these three.
Wordly love can be alike an ocean, yet even an ocean has a bottom.
Divine love is like the sky which is limitless (means top of the heart)
infinite. From the bottom of the ocean, soar into the vast sky.

when you love somebody, what do you love in them? Do you love their qualities
(Kahi pein nigahen kahi pein nishana), attributes (Smile, Voice) or the
person (looking damn sexy)? Often love diminishes. A child love its mother
as the child gets older,the love for mother recedes as the focus is now on friends, (girl friend ;))
then spouse and then children. Divine love, however, grows every moment…
You can never be bored being with a wise person, a saint. Every day
you spend, you feel the depth is getting even more. Every moment you
spend with a saint you feel the relationship is growing deeper and deeper.
This kind of love never breaks down; it never diminishes.
Divine love is so refined and so subtle, it cannot be expressed;
it can only be experienced.

Mysteries cannot be understood; they cannot be explained,
but can be lived. ‘Sukshmataram Anubhavarupam’, it’s a form of experience.
You can live it, you can be it, you can shed tears of gratitude, but you cannot
express it. You cannot fully share it with anyone.

This love is so unconditional; it does not depend on the behavior of
the other person. It does not depend on the attributes of the other
person. Does not depend upon what they do to you and what they don’t
do to you. You are in love because you can’t be but in love. You have no
choice as it is your very nature. Like the sun has no other choice than
just shine. The sun is anyway shining beyond the clouds.

Nothing can stop the sun from shining. Even when an eclipse happens,
those shadows are so far away from the sun. It does not touch the sun.
Similarly, the entire seeming disturbance in love, in your life,
does not take away your nature, which is pure love, unconditional love.
The ability to receive genuine love comes with the ability to give love.
That’s why often you do not know how to respond when someone
shows a lot of love. The more you are centered and know by experience that
you are love, the more you feel at home with any amount of love expressed
in any manner. Deep inside, you know that love is not an emotion;
it is your very existence.


Source: Times of India, the Speaking Tree, Feb 8, 2011
Discourse: Sri Sri Ravi Shankar